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Sanctuary members regularly contribute to this blog with information of interest to Carers of people with BPD.
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Webinar: The Impact of Suicidality on Family and Friends
On Thursday 25 July 2019, a webinar from NEA.BPD for family members who have experienced, witnessed or learned about their loved one’s suicide attempt and may have increased distress, grief, overwhelming worry or fear about their loved one’s safety, increased alertness or hypervigilance, and uncertainty about how to respond to their loved one’s behaviour.
Family members often find themselves anticipating the next crisis, without a chance to recover or process the previous one.
The Special Guest presenter is Dr. Luciana Payne, Ph.D, a Clinical Psychologist at McLean Hospital in Belmont, Massachusetts, USA
Please Listen – a poem
When I ask that you listen to me, and you give advice, you have not heard what I ask of you When I ask that you listen to me, and you tell me why I shouldn’t feel as I do, you are trampling on my feelings When I ask you to listen to me, and you feel you have to find...
BPD – A Guide to Symptoms, Treatment, and Recovery
When you have BPD, almost everything in your world is unstable: your relationships, moods, thinking, behaviour, and even your identity. But there is hope.
How to Recognise BPD in a Loved One and Improve your Relationship
While you can’t force someone to seek treatment for BPD, you can take steps to improve communication, set healthy boundaries, and stabilize the relationship.
Christmas Wishes 2018
Dear Sanctuary members. My granddaughters tell me it is only three more sleeps till Christmas morning so it is definitely time I wrote to you all with my Christmas thoughts and wishes. I must admit I have been struggling with how to wish you...
From Family Trauma to Support, from Gunderson and Hoffman Publication
From Family Trauma to Family Support System Harriet P. Lefley, Phd Families’ Experiences With Mental Illness The body of research on families’ experience when one member has a mental illness suggests pervasive problems across diagnoses. There are...
Family Perspectives on BPD, from Gunderson and Hoffman Publication
Family Perspectives on Borderline Personality Disorder Dixianne Penney, Dr. P.H. Patricia Woodward, M.A.T. A first encounter with borderline personality disorder (BPD) is likely to leave one reeling: a call from the emergency room or a counsellor at school...
Self-harm and BPD, from Gunderson and Hoffman Publication
Suicidal and Self-Injurious Behaviour in Borderline Personality Disorder Barbara Stanley, Ph.D. Beth S. Brodsky, Ph.D. Deliberately inflicted self-harm in the context of borderline personality disorder (BPD) can be disturbing, frightening, and shame provoking...
Webinar: BPD and Families, what’s the connection – Part 2 – Recording
Part 2 of the NEA's webinar about the Family Connections® course and how it can help. This was broadcast on-line on 5 December 2018. Here is a recording of the webinar The panel discussion featured Cassie Choo, person with lived experience of BPD, Carissa Wright, BPD...
Webinar: BPD and Families, what’s the connection – Part 1 – Recording
For BPD Awareness Week, a webinar featuring our member Liz and her son Jake talking about the Family Connections® course and how it has helped them. Here is a recording of the Webinar BPD Affects The Whole Family When a loved one has borderline...
Self Care Strategies
This offering comes from the 2018 BPD Awareness Week campaign, from the Australian BPD Foundation collaborating with many other groups that support Australians with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD).
Talking to Kids About Mental Health, by Cynthia Bissett Germanotta – The Mighty Blog Post
When I Realized I Needed to Change the Way I Talk to My Daughters About Mental Health by Cynthia Bissett Germanotta, President of Born This Way Foundation and mother of Lady Gaga. This story was published recently in The Mighty, a blog about Mental...
Thoughts for Carers, by Robert Trett
Thoughts for Carers from Robert Trett, of Spectrum Personality Disorder Service, Victoria Criticism turns off hearing Threats fall on deaf ears Love and encouragement offer the strongest hope We cling to the belief that if we prop someone up for long enough, he or she...
May 2018 Sanctuary Meeting – Joy Anasta, Validation and Boundaries
Counsellor Joy Anasta helped us with setting boundaries for the person with BPD who we love and care for.
April 2017 Sanctuary Meeting – Dr Martha Kent
Dr Martha Kent on caring for someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)
Validation Vs Tough Love
At times, carers of people living with BPD have asked me if tough love is what they should be doing to help the person they care for, to make them "grow up", or to give them ultimatums if they don't change their behaviours. I have always answered that...
Christmas Thoughts 2016
Hi Everyone, Bob and I struggled with our Christmas message to you all, trying to find the right words to let you know we were thinking of you all at this time of the year, and most of all to help those of you who are apprehensive about Christmas to...
Some Thoughts on Loving Someone with BPD
As carers, we may experience some of these feelings at different times, and we are not alone. These feelings are common to most of us and perfectly understandable
BPD Information for Family and Friends
An overview of Borderline Personality Disorder for Family and Friends of people with BPD
The Nine Diagnostic Criteria, Explained
There are nine diagnostic symptoms in the DSM.
This article explores what the nine symptoms of BPD mean for carers and families.
How Validation can help someone with BPD
Families must try new strategies, especially when their loved one refuses to get help.
When parents use validation, the emotionality of a person with borderline will decrease. This strategy will help those with ill spouses or ill parents too.
What does validation mean and how can it help a person with Borderline Personality Disorder?
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