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When Your Loved One Has Borderline Personality Disorder – Finding peace amongst the turmoil, by Kathleen Smith, PhDread more
Ten Essential Limits for Romantic Relationships, by Randi Krugerread more
When I ask that you listen to me, and you give advice, you have not heard what I ask of you When I ask that you listen to me, and you tell me why I shouldn’t feel as I do, you are trampling on my feelings When I ask you to listen to me, and you feel you have to find...read more
While you can’t force someone to seek treatment for BPD, you can take steps to improve communication, set healthy boundaries, and stabilize the relationship.read more
Some members support a child or grandchild whose parent has been diagnosed with, or has symptoms of BPD.
I know this causes more distress for you as you try to give the best care to the little one (or sometimes not so little!!)
Here are links to some information that may help you in your care for childen or grandchildren.
Dear Sanctuary members. My granddaughters tell me it is only three more sleeps till Christmas morning so it is definitely time I wrote to you all with my Christmas thoughts and wishes. I must admit I have been struggling with how to wish you...read more
From Family Trauma to Family Support System Harriet P. Lefley, Phd Families’ Experiences With Mental Illness The body of research on families’ experience when one member has a mental illness suggests pervasive problems across diagnoses. There are...read more
Family Perspectives on Borderline Personality Disorder Dixianne Penney, Dr. P.H. Patricia Woodward, M.A.T. A first encounter with borderline personality disorder (BPD) is likely to leave one reeling: a call from the emergency room or a counsellor at school...read more
Suicidal and Self-Injurious Behaviour in Borderline Personality Disorder Barbara Stanley, Ph.D. Beth S. Brodsky, Ph.D. Deliberately inflicted self-harm in the context of borderline personality disorder (BPD) can be disturbing, frightening, and shame provoking to...read more
ABC Radio National aired this story on All in the Mind on 2nd September 2018: Mothering and mental illness Having children can be wonderful but there’s no doubt that parenting can be challenging, especially for women with mental illness. We hear about the...read more
When I Realized I Needed to Change the Way I Talk to My Daughters About Mental Health by Cynthia Bissett Germanotta, President of Born This Way Foundation and mother of Lady Gaga. This story was published recently in The Mighty, a blog about Mental...read more
Thoughts for Carers from Robert Trett, of Spectrum Personality Disorder Service, Victoria Criticism turns off hearing Threats fall on deaf ears Love and encouragement offer the strongest hope We cling to the belief that if we prop someone up for long enough, he or she...read more
One of our members asked for info to help siblings who live with a brother or sister diagnosed with a mental illness and when I read this Fact Sheet, Siblings and Mental Health, from Centacare and Siblings Australia, I thought others might find it useful as well.
Share it with any siblings who are struggling with their brother or sister.read more
At times, carers of people living with BPD have asked me if tough love is what they should be doing to help the person they care for, to make them "grow up", or to give them ultimatums if they don't change their behaviours. I have always answered that...read more
Hi Everyone, Bob and I struggled with our Christmas message to you all, trying to find the right words to let you know we were thinking of you all at this time of the year, and most of all to help those of you who are apprehensive about Christmas to...read more
Recently added to the website from the archives.
As carers, we may experience some of these feelings at different times, and we are not alone. These feelings are common to most of us and perfectly understandableread more
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This website is produced by members of the Sanctuary Support Group. We are not mental health professionals nor clinicians. We are ordinary people who care for someone with BPD. This website is a collection of information that we have found helpful or of interest in the context of our own lived experiences. The content of this website is not a substitute for independent professional advice, diagnosis or treatment.