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Sanctuary members regularly contribute to this blog with information of interest to Carers of people with BPD.
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Christmas Wishes 2020

Christmas Wishes 2020

What a year this has been. It has affected us all in some way. It has certainly affected Sanctuary members as sadly, we have not been able to meet face to face and I have missed meeting with many of you….

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Thoughts for Christmas 2019

Thoughts for Christmas 2019

With a loved one who lives with the ups and downs of BPD, Christmas can be a less than happy time, with family who don’t understand the emotions she/he may be feeling at this time …

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On Loneliness

On Loneliness

Professor Sharon Lawn shares her very personal experience caring for her husband who has significant mental illness and psychosocial disability. 

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When you can never be enough

When you can never be enough

Dr Margaret Rutherford talks about the exhaustion and guilt that can be felt by someone who’s trying to love a person with BPD. She offer nine strategies to try to ease the guilt

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Please Listen – a poem

Please Listen – a poem

When I ask that you listen to me, and you give advice, you have not heard what I ask of you When I ask that you listen to me, and you tell me why I shouldn’t feel as I do, you are trampling on my feelings When I ask you to listen to me, and you feel you have to find...

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Children who have a Parent with Mental Illness

Children who have a Parent with Mental Illness

Some members support a child or grandchild whose parent has been diagnosed with, or has symptoms of BPD.
I know this causes more distress for you as you try to give the best care to the little one (or sometimes not so little!!)

Here are links to some information that may help you in your care for childen or grandchildren.
Judy

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Christmas Wishes 2018

Christmas Wishes 2018

Dear Sanctuary members. My granddaughters tell me it is only three more sleeps till Christmas morning so it is definitely time I wrote to you all with my Christmas thoughts and wishes. I must admit I have been struggling with how to wish you...

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Self-harm and BPD, from Gunderson and Hoffman Publication

Self-harm and BPD, from Gunderson and Hoffman Publication

Suicidal and Self-Injurious Behaviour in Borderline Personality Disorder Barbara Stanley, Ph.D. Beth S. Brodsky, Ph.D.   Deliberately inflicted self-harm in the context of borderline personality disorder (BPD) can be disturbing, frightening, and shame provoking...

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Thoughts for Carers, by Robert Trett

Thoughts for Carers, by Robert Trett

Thoughts for Carers from Robert Trett, of Spectrum Personality Disorder Service, Victoria Criticism turns off hearing Threats fall on deaf ears Love and encouragement offer the strongest hope We cling to the belief that if we prop someone up for long enough, he or she...

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Siblings and Mental Illness – Fact Sheet

Siblings and Mental Illness – Fact Sheet

One of our members asked for info to help siblings who live with a brother or sister diagnosed with a mental illness and when I read this Fact Sheet, Siblings and Mental Health, from Centacare and Siblings Australia, I thought others might find it useful as well.

Share it with any siblings who are struggling with their brother or sister.

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Validation Vs Tough Love

Validation Vs Tough Love

At times, carers of people living with BPD have asked me if tough love is what they should be doing to help the person they care for, to make them "grow up", or to give them ultimatums if they don't change their behaviours. I have always answered that...

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