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When I ask that you listen to me, and you give advice, you have not heard what I ask of you When I ask that you listen to me, and you tell me why I shouldn’t feel as I do, you are trampling on my feelings When I ask you to listen to me, and you feel you have to find...read more
Part 2 of the NEA's webinar about the Family Connections® course and how it can help. This was broadcast on-line on 5 December 2018. Here is a recording of the webinar The panel discussion featured Cassie Choo, person with lived experience of BPD, Carissa...read more
For BPD Awareness Week, a webinar featuring our member Liz and her son Jake talking about the Family Connections® course and how it has helped them. Here is a recording of the Webinar BPD Affects The Whole Family When a loved one has borderline...read more
Thoughts for Carers from Robert Trett, of Spectrum Personality Disorder Service, Victoria Criticism turns off hearing Threats fall on deaf ears Love and encouragement offer the strongest hope We cling to the belief that if we prop someone up for long enough, he or she...read more
Counsellor Joy Anasta helped us with setting boundaries for the person with BPD who we love and care for.read more
Dr Martha Kent on caring for someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)read more
At times, carers of people living with BPD have asked me if tough love is what they should be doing to help the person they care for, to make them "grow up", or to give them ultimatums if they don't change their behaviours. I have always answered that...read more
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Families must try new strategies, especially when their loved one refuses to get help.
When parents use validation, the emotionality of a person with borderline will decrease. This strategy will help those with ill spouses or ill parents too.
What does validation mean and how can it help a person with Borderline Personality Disorder?read more
Listen objectively to what the person we care for is trying to tell us. Learn about BPD and how it is affecting him/her right now. Validate – learn and apply the skill of validating.read more
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This website is produced by members of the Sanctuary Support Group. We are not mental health professionals nor clinicians. We are ordinary people who care for someone with BPD. This website is a collection of information that we have found helpful or of interest in the context of our own lived experiences. The content of this website is not a substitute for independent professional advice, diagnosis or treatment.