How can Carers help someone with BPD?

  • Listen – listen objectively to what the person we care for is trying to tell us
  • Learn – learn about the illness, and learn about how it is affecting him/her right now
  • Validate – learn and apply the skill of validating


Here is a short introduction to validation:   The importance of Validation for Mental Health by Andrea Schklar, a DBT Counsellor who treats individuals with borderline personality disorder (BPD) and individuals struggling with emotion regulation, self harm, and/or frequent suicide attempts.


Click here to watch the video “Validation: Love Alone is Not Enough”




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