At our January Meeting, a new member asked if we had a list of psychologists we could recommend for the person they care for. While we don’t really like recommending anyone in particular, we do have a list of psychologists who other members have found helpful.

We then got to talk about what to look for in a new clinician given that the most important thing for someone diagnosed with BPD is the relationship with that person, as well as of course, having a good understanding of BPD. From what I have read and heard from the experts like Sathya Rao from Spectrum, and Andrew Chanen from Orygen, it is the relationship with the therapist that trumps it all, for the therapy to work.

“it may come as no surprise…….that the general skill of the clinician and the match between patient and clinician have much more to do with the long range outcome than the particular technique being applied” (Ann Appelbaum 2006)

Here are some questions you may like to ask a therapist before you actually make an appointment.

I have always said, if after a few sessions you don’t feel comfortable with a therapist, then it is probably not right for you and you should try someone else. Trust your gut feelings and this is something to keep in mind when the person you care for decides to “sack” their clinician. Often, if they don’t feel it’s right, it probably isn’t.



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