Sanctuary Support Group

BPD Carer Blog

Sanctuary members regularly share information they have found helpful, here. If your family member or friend has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), then we hope these posts are helpful to you.

You often hear us say that the best way to help someone with BPD is to validate their feelings. We always say, look at the feelings behind what they are saying/doing. Listen carefully and validate the emotion you think they might be feeling at that moment. Validation does really work to calm a situation But as carers, we too have feelings. The BPD diagnosis of our loved one also affects our lives. Who validates us? Who validates our grief about the loss of the life we imagined they would have?