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Couples and Families
Sanctuary members regularly contribute to this blog with information of interest to Carers of people with BPD.
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April 2021 Sanctuary Meeting – Dr Martha Kent
Dr Martha Kent spoke about the basics of BPD, and the challenges and recommendations for carers
Christmas Wishes 2020
What a year this has been. It has affected us all in some way. It has certainly affected Sanctuary members as sadly, we have not been able to meet face to face and I have missed meeting with many of you….
Helping Someone With BPD – RANZ College of Psychiatrists
The RANZ College of Psychiatrists provide this great advice about Helping Someone With BPD
Family Connections® Course – for anyone helping to care for a person with BPD
Family Connections® is a free, 12-week course from NEA.BPD that provides education, skills training and support for people who are in a relationship with someone who has BPD.
Thoughts for Christmas 2019
With a loved one who lives with the ups and downs of BPD, Christmas can be a less than happy time, with family who don’t understand the emotions she/he may be feeling at this time …
Professor Sharon Lawn shares her very personal experience caring for her husband who has significant mental illness and psychosocial disability.
When you can never be enough
Dr Margaret Rutherford talks about the exhaustion and guilt that can be felt by someone who’s trying to love a person with BPD. She offer nine strategies to try to ease the guilt
Finding peace amongst the turmoil
When Your Loved One Has Borderline Personality Disorder – Finding peace amongst the turmoil, by Kathleen Smith, PhD
Ten Essential Limits for Romantic Relationships
Ten Essential Limits for Romantic Relationships, by Randi Kruger
Please Listen – a poem
When I ask that you listen to me, and you give advice, you have not heard what I ask of you When I ask that you listen to me, and you tell me why I shouldn’t feel as I do, you are trampling on my feelings When I ask you to listen to me, and you feel you have to find...
How to Recognise BPD in a Loved One and Improve your Relationship
While you can’t force someone to seek treatment for BPD, you can take steps to improve communication, set healthy boundaries, and stabilize the relationship.
Children who have a Parent with Mental Illness
Some members support a child or grandchild whose parent has been diagnosed with, or has symptoms of BPD.
I know this causes more distress for you as you try to give the best care to the little one (or sometimes not so little!!)
Here are links to some information that may help you in your care for childen or grandchildren.
Christmas Wishes 2018
Dear Sanctuary members. My granddaughters tell me it is only three more sleeps till Christmas morning so it is definitely time I wrote to you all with my Christmas thoughts and wishes. I must admit I have been struggling with how to wish you...
From Family Trauma to Support, from Gunderson and Hoffman Publication
From Family Trauma to Family Support System Harriet P. Lefley, Phd Families’ Experiences With Mental Illness The body of research on families’ experience when one member has a mental illness suggests pervasive problems across diagnoses. There are...
Family Perspectives on BPD, from Gunderson and Hoffman Publication
Family Perspectives on Borderline Personality Disorder Dixianne Penney, Dr. P.H. Patricia Woodward, M.A.T. A first encounter with borderline personality disorder (BPD) is likely to leave one reeling: a call from the emergency room or a counsellor at school...
Self-harm and BPD, from Gunderson and Hoffman Publication
Suicidal and Self-Injurious Behaviour in Borderline Personality Disorder Barbara Stanley, Ph.D. Beth S. Brodsky, Ph.D. Deliberately inflicted self-harm in the context of borderline personality disorder (BPD) can be disturbing, frightening, and shame provoking...
Mothering and mental illness – All in the Mind radio program
ABC Radio National aired this story on All in the Mind on 2nd September 2018: Mothering and mental illness Having children can be wonderful but there’s no doubt that parenting can be challenging, especially for women with mental illness. We hear about the...
Talking to Kids About Mental Health, by Cynthia Bissett Germanotta – The Mighty Blog Post
When I Realized I Needed to Change the Way I Talk to My Daughters About Mental Health by Cynthia Bissett Germanotta, President of Born This Way Foundation and mother of Lady Gaga. This story was published recently in The Mighty, a blog about Mental...
Thoughts for Carers, by Robert Trett
Thoughts for Carers from Robert Trett, of Spectrum Personality Disorder Service, Victoria Criticism turns off hearing Threats fall on deaf ears Love and encouragement offer the strongest hope We cling to the belief that if we prop someone up for long enough, he or she...
Siblings and Mental Illness – Fact Sheet
One of our members asked for info to help siblings who live with a brother or sister diagnosed with a mental illness and when I read this Fact Sheet, Siblings and Mental Health, from Centacare and Siblings Australia, I thought others might find it useful as well.
Share it with any siblings who are struggling with their brother or sister.
Validation Vs Tough Love
At times, carers of people living with BPD have asked me if tough love is what they should be doing to help the person they care for, to make them "grow up", or to give them ultimatums if they don't change their behaviours. I have always answered that...
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